We’re Not Big Wedding People: Photography for Couples Who Hate Fuss
- Gemma Cullen
- Jan 3
- 3 min read
Updated: 2 days ago
Let’s get this out of the way early:
If the idea of a big, performative wedding makes you slightly uncomfortable…If you don’t love attention…If the word “pose” fills you with dread…then having a relaxed Liverpool wedding photographer who captures real, unposed moments could be exactly what you need.
You are not alone. And you are very much allowed to feel that way. A lot of couples I work with say the same thing (I know I do!!!)
"We’re just not big wedding people.”
They still care deeply about their day. They just don’t want fuss, pressure, or to feel like they’re starring in a photoshoot they didn’t audition for. This is where my relaxed style of wedding photography comes in.
You Don’t Have to Perform to Have Beautiful Photos
Somewhere along the line, weddings picked up this idea that you’re supposed to perform happiness all day. Big reactions, dramatic poses, constant direction. But real life doesn’t work like that. And honestly, it doesn’t photograph well either.
If you’re naturally quieter, more reserved, or just not into being centre stage, forcing that energy usually results in stiff, awkward photos. Relaxed wedding photography does the opposite. It lets you be yourselves. No acting nor pretending. No pressure to “do something” for the camera.
You can see examples of couples I’ve photographed naturally in my Liverpool wedding portfolio.
What “Relaxed” Actually Means
Relaxed doesn’t mean I turn up, do nothing, and hope for the best. It means:
I don’t interrupt moments unless I need to
I don’t pull you away from your guests for ages
I don’t over-pose or over-direct
I give gentle guidance when it helps, then step back
Most of the time, I’m quietly observing and anticipating moments rather than creating them.
That’s how you get photos that feel real, not staged.
If You’re Thinking “We’re Awkward”, Join the Club
Almost every couple says this to me. And I believe them - I'm exactly the same. You don’t need to be confident.You don’t need to know what to do with your hands.You don’t need to practise smiling.
You just need space to relax into the day.
My job is to make sure you never feel watched or rushed. When people feel comfortable, they stop thinking about the camera. That’s when the best photos happen.
Small Weddings, Quiet Moments, and Low-Key Days Matter
Not every wedding is loud. Not every couple wants centre-stage energy.
Some weddings are:
Small
Calm
Intimate
Slightly chaotic in a very normal way
Those days deserve to be documented just as thoughtfully.
If your priorities are your people, your experience, and actually enjoying the day, then photography should support that, not dominate it.
Why This Approach Works So Well in Real Life
Real weddings don’t run perfectly.Timelines slip.The weather does what it wants.People get emotional at unexpected moments.
A relaxed approach means adapting without stress. Staying calm. Letting the day unfold. That calmness shows up in the photos. And more importantly, it shows up in how the day feels while you’re living it.
This Might Be for You If…
This style of wedding photography is probably a good fit if:
You hate the idea of being posed all day
You want photos that feel natural and honest
You’d rather enjoy your wedding than perform it
You want someone calm, organised, and easy to be around
If that sounds like you, you’re very much my kind of people.
A Gentle Next Step
If you’re planning a wedding in Liverpool and you’re looking for a relaxed wedding photographer who focuses on real moments rather than fuss, you’re welcome to have a look at my work or get in touch for a chat.
No pressure at all. Just a chat to see if we’re a good fit. Because your wedding photos should feel like you, not like something you had to put on.